Positive Parenting in Action: The How-To Guide for Putting Positive Parenting Principles into Action in Early Childhood Paperback – June 26, 2013

With a two month old, 2 and a half year old, and a 7 year old, I found helpful advice for all areas of parenting struggles that we face. This book provided the gift of letting go of the past and being hopeful for the future armed with this information and clear cut advice. EMPATHY is recommended to be at the forefront of every action and reaction, and this philosophy is a true middle ground between being permissive and being too strict and caught up with punishment and nagging. I feel like I was already doing most of this stuff but it was a very helpful refresher and cleared up a few things I was unsure or doubting myself on. I'm truly excited for tomorrow and all the rest after a tough parenting day and am thankful for these wise words.

Was lucky enough to find this book at the recommendation of a Montessori teacher. My daughter went from having 5 tempter tantrums a day (3 years old) to just one a month to one in six months. It changed how I view consequences and development of my very normal daughter. I had originally thought she was feisty and out of control but learned she was just frustrated and once I learned to hear her story better, she calmed right down and became a very easy child. SO grateful to the ladies who wrote this book!

I found this book to be an easy quick read with all major "trouble topics" addressed, such as tantrums and bedtime. It helped get across what gentle parenting is through the use of example scenarios throughout the book. Helpful and just as long as necessary! (Ie others would have probably made it longer by adding repetitive filler, but this is just short and sweet!)

Easy to read, helpful guidance and plan to pass on to family members as they become parents. This book has helped shape our parenting for the better. If you feel like your home needs a more positive influence, or just need some foundation for your parenting values, this book is for you.

I love this book it’s such profound parenting insight but in an easy to read (while your kids are acting crazy) format. It is straight forward & gives great examples. We love all of Rebecca Eanes’ books and are so grateful for Positive Parenting.

I like the real world examples provided. I would recommend this to someone who is just starting with positive parenting for sure but maybe not for someone who's been at it for a while since there wasn't anything particularly new. It is nice to have a reference on how to respond to different types of behavior in one concise place.

Loved the easy examples!! I have a 3 year old and it was getting harder to understand some changes in her mood. Now I have better ways to empathize and recover our connection. A book that any parent with minimum a 1 year old must read.

This is the first book on Positive Parenting that I have read. As a Christian reading this book, I found several very positive things:1. A strong focus on treating our children as we would want to be treated, including considering their perspective, understanding their weaknesses, and being empathetic.2. A focus on loving our children unconditionally and building relationships with them, not just trying to control them.3. Encouragement to be an example and model the behavior we expect of our children.4. A concern for avoiding the ditch of permissive parenting. (They do encourage setting and enforcing certain limits.)5. Some creative ideas for teaching children appropriate behavior and for dealing with unacceptable behavior. I found quite a few ideas I've tried with my four children. (But then, there were many things I would not try.)I also see several problems, from a Christian perspective, with this philosophy of parenting:1. Sin is missing from the equation. Problem behavior is explained without acknowledging our indwelling sin nature (Ps. 51:5, Rom. 3:23). All the empathizing and environment-altering of Positive Parenting will not be effective if it doesn't recognize our real problem - sinful hearts that need God's love, His grace, and the transforming work of the Holy Spirit (Eph. 2:1-10).2. In Positive Parenting, all feelings are valid. They advocate telling an angry child "It's OK to be upset. It's not OK to hit. Would it help to hit a pillow to get your angry feelings out?" Even secular scientists lean towards discouraging such catharsis as an effective way of dealing with anger. You certainly wouldn't find this teaching in the Bible (2 Tim. 1:7, Matt. 5:22, Eph. 4:31, Col. 3:8, Jas. 1:19-20).3. There is no higher standard to point your children to, beyond the values embodied in the Positive Parenting philosophy (primarily mutual respect, empathy, unconditional acceptance, attachment, and giving everyone the opportunity to manage and better themselves). Their ultimate goal is to raise happy children with good morals.4. Many of the solutions involve distracting your child, ignoring wrong behavior, or otherwise allowing your child to do what he wants, rather than dealing directly with the problem at hand. Several times I found myself thinking "If that doesn't work, what then?"5. While the authors see cooperation as desirable, they downplay the importance of obedience, which is one of the Bible's top priorities for children (Eph. 6:1, Col. 3:20) and a primary way children develop mastery of their own will.6. The authors seem to have low expectations for children in many areas. In my observations and limited experience, what children are capable of is closely tied to what we expect of them, and I don't believe my children (or theirs) are as clueless as they imply.Rebecca Eanes and Laura Ling are well-intentioned, but without a biblical framework and some serious modifications, I suspect Positive Parenting methods will produce results just as disappointing as authoritarian or permissive parenting.As Bible-based alternatives, Christian parents will appreciate Loving the Little Years by Rachel Jankovic, Parenting with Scripture by Kara Durbin, or For Instruction in Righteousness by Pam Forster.

anhand von vielen Fallbeispielen. an einem tag gelesen. sehr gut

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É um livro de exemplos, situações. Super prático. Explicações objetivas e sugestões de formas de agir práticas e simples. Muito bom.

This is a really nicely written book with good examples given. It helped me to understand that tantrums don't just represent manipulative behaviour, but are a sign that your child isn't able to handle their emotions and are feeling frustrated. It made me feel much happier and made my relationship with my three year old much more positive. I find I don't say, "No!" quite so many times a day now!

I've read a few parenting books over the years and this is definitely one of the best. It has many common, real life situations and examples that most parents will have experienced at one time or another. The book gives a different insight into how to deal with these situations and encourages the parent to have empathy and understanding with the child. The only down side of this book is that it is very short and I would have loved to have kept reading ...