The Emotionally Absent Mother, Updated and Expanded Second Edition: How to Recognize and Heal the Invisible Effects of Childhood Emotional Neglect Kindle Edition

This book is for those who don't have all those warm fuzzy memories of the loving, supportive, compassionate mother... and for those who have loving mothers who just couldn't give you what you needed, even if you didn't know you needed it. I find myself coming back to this book again and again. I have read others, but I think Ms Cori cuts to the point without sounding too afternoon tv show ish. I cried through it the first time, but this book really helped me realize where some (ok, many) of my maladaptive behaviors came from. On your journey towards personal growth, this is a great help.

This book is a "good mother." Every page describes how I feel/have felt. The book puts words to feelings I didn't realize or only vaguely realized until I read the descriptions in the book. I feel heard, validated, and able to heal.

There were times when this book was tough to get through because of the strong emotions that are brought to the surface, but it was also comforting to know that others had experienced similar issues with difficult mothers. It is true that children of abusive mothers can be good at parenting despite the bad example they grew up with as I experienced flashbacks of traumatic moments from my own childhood while doing the most basic tasks for my beloved child and vowed never to treat my offspring in such an abusive manner.

This book is excellent for someone dealing with childhood emotional neglect issues in their adult life. I admit that I had to quit reading for a while because the pain is too real! I never realized how much was repressed and bottled up inside me that the flood of memories was too painful all at once. I recommend this book in conjunction with talk therapy. Mourning the loss of your childhood is both painful and healing, mothering yourself is essential for recovering from emotional neglect.

Well-written, clear, not soppy, not full of client examples.

Prior to reading this book, I had an extremely difficult time with inner-child work in my recovery process. This book facilitated a breakthrough in trauma recovery that I am so grateful for. I highly recommend this book to anyone struggling with childhood trauma.

Finding it easy to read and understand. Has written exercises for you to participate in. Would recommend seeing a qualified therapist as it covers an indepth look into your relationship with your mother and could bring up issues that need to be talked thru.

I actually thought my mom was a worse mother than she was before reading this book. This book helped me point out the specific areas where my mom struggled, but also the areas where she really did well. It also helped me see how her mother may have affected her and how I can break the generational cycle. I'd recommend it to anyone who is or is preparing to be a mother, too, as it can help us see what we need to work on so we don't damage our own kids too badly.

My personal therapist recommended this book as we have been working for about two years on my 'mother issues'.There were many 'light bulb' moments for me as I read the book: Jasmin Lee Cori sensitively takes you through some painful issues and makes helpful connections and observations which really do help to heal childhood emotional neglect.There were times when I laughed out loud as it felt to me like the author knew my mum!I use sticky markers each time I find really helpful/useful text; my test of a 'good book' is how many markers I use. If you look at the picture you will see that this book if packed with helpful/useful text!I would like to thank the author for writing such a helpful and insightful book.

This might sound overly dramatic. But I feel like this book saved my life. There's no words to explain just how much I needed to hear what was written in this book. Especially from someone neutral without a hidden agenda. It felt as though this book was written directly to me. I kept thinking how do you know me and my mother? Lol. It literally all applied to me.It's probably worth noting that this book doesn't actually have the resources to heal you, although it does have some useful exercises. What it does do however is lay out the blueprint of what would help (certain types of therapies primarily done with a psychotherapist), which gives you a good starting point on next steps. Having said that, just gaining a better understanding of myself and my childhood was partially healing in itself.Being a mother to a young child, this also helped me have more confidence in how I am raising her.I've done a number of short course therapies, cbt, groups, etc and whilst those kinds of courses certainly have their places for more superficial (not used in a derogatory way) problems, I feel rather than tackling specific traumas and giving coping skills as these courses do, it's probably worth finding out whether a person has the foundation needed to even begin to tackle more recent traumas and actually deal with root problems rather than just giving coping skills, which in my opinion is a akin to simply putting a bandaid over the wound. All this time I've spent in therapy and not once have we gone into this stuff. Therefore I've not felt any better. NHS mental health has a lot to answer for.But moving on... this is a seriously amazing book. If you have mum issues and the concept is new to you, you won't regret buying it. Only reason why it's not 5 stars is because I'd have liked more exercises. Simply because booking some sessions with the author isn't an option, so to me that's the next best thing.

Wow. I'm completely blown away. Read in one day and it was like the author had been inside my head and explained to me what was there and why. I no longer feel a stranger to myself and understand what I'm missing that most people aren't and that it's not our fault, we're not broken and can heal after finding the cause of our wounds. Anyone with a difficult relationship with mother, please buy you will not regret.

This book was suggested by my therapist when I came to her with something completely unrelated. Now I can see why she recommended it. It explained so much about the things I’ve struggled with for so many years. I had no idea they originated there, with my narcissitic mother... Ofcourse the did! Every chapter has delivered revelations, tears and healing.

A brilliant and eye opening book if you have been through a childhood like that. Highly recommended - I buy it for anyone I discover who suffered similar issues due to unavailable parents for whatever reason (commonly alcohol or mental health issues) which stopped them being present for their children.